"THE LONG GOODBYE"

Often the term "The Long Goodbye" is used as the state of reality for caretakers and loved ones dealing with dementia and Alzheimer's diseases. "The Long Goodbye" means the disease slowly robs an individual of their basic mental and physical abilities to thrive and live. While it is true, I have prayed and meditated to form an alternative to the difficult situation many of us face. It may not be original, but it is shared for those facing or who may face the very tough route presented by dementia and Alzheimer's. 

I've formed and acted upon the thought that dealing with this monstrous disease has a flip side which is positive. Using daily visits, attention, grooming, affection, gentle reminders and photos with Peggy often remind her of our long marriage and times together. Sometimes her fading memory is jogged, and she smiles a sweet smile of recognition, sometimes she doesn't. However, for me any recall on her part is a small reconnect and celebration over the disease and reminder of the best times of our lives. I am refreshed and happy when we reconnect, if only for a few minutes.

I am often reminded by professionals that the caretaker must take care of himself in order to adequately care for his afflicted loved one. This is true because an empty nest, loneliness and depression can be frequent and unwelcome visitors.

While I have no medical credentials, I suggest to anyone facing the heartbreaking situation of this foul disease to remake the phrase to a more positive, "THE LONG AND JOYOUS GOODBYE".